Adultery, girl power style

Are there older Christian women challenging younger Christian women to stop cheating on their husbands? One of my hopes for 2009 is to go one year, just one year, without hearing of a Christian 20-or-30-something-year-old wife who is cheating.

Of course, not all young women cheat, and plenty of cheating men have hurt women. But over the past 10 years, several young couples I've personally known have had theirmarriages end because of the wife's infidelity. Oddly enough, none of the guys I've known have committed adultery. It seems that "sex in the suburbs" is a new trend among young Christian women.

Is this the result of feminism breaching the church such that equality with men means sinning against men in the stereotypical ways that men have sinned against women? Is this the result of a divorce culture or women with unhealed "daddy issues?"

I've been talking to ministry leaders from around the nation and many have noted the same trend. No one can seen to put their finger on the root of the problem. Are women reacting to fact that the evangelical church generally raises boys to be passive? While it's true that passive, "nice guys" make great boyfriends because they are often servile and easy manipulated, passive men become the sad husbands that many women eventually grow to resent.

I wish I had less anecdotal, personal data other than the dozen or so couples I know of, as well as from discussions with others, but I don't hear women being challenged about their sexual fidelity in marriage. Why is this? Why do Christian men need "accountability groups" and women simply need "fellowship" or "support" groups?

I have a seminary-graduated friend in the South who has walked through so many women-initiated adultery cases with his friends that he's confessed to struggling with misogyny and absolute cynicism about the possibility of a woman being faithful.

Some might sarcastically suggest that maybe, in the future, the groom's Mom needs to show the potential daughter-in-law her gun collection during a conversation about how much she would hate to see her son get hurt. What gives?