What is a mother worth?
Christians should not stop celebrating motherhood as it comes under cultural attack
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The English writer Agatha Christie once said “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.” This past Sunday, families paused and honored the mothers in their lives. But for me, it was a more personal and bittersweet holiday.
A week ago, my mother, age 69, passed away from complications with dementia, her family by her side. In the last days, we sang hymns, cited Scripture as she was ushered into eternity. Children rarely appreciate the gift of a good mother. It was well into adulthood before I began to appreciate the treasures she passed down: a stable family life, church attendance, a love of words, and a love of curiosity. I’m a writer, in large part, because Mom taught me to read, bought me good books, and urged me to think about how Christianity applies to the headlines we read every day in the newspaper. Most of all, she gave me the gift of knowing Jesus, having led me to faith in Christ.
What is a mother worth? The website Salary.com tries to quantify with their updated estimate of the various jobs a stay-at-home mom does throughout a day, including CEO, coach, academic advisor, chef, nurse, and judge. They estimate if a mom were paid for the tasks she performs in keeping a home, it would be just under $200,000 a year. But the ultimate reward might be what Scripture tells us a good Mom hears in appreciation from her adult children, who “rise up and call her blessed” (Proverbs 31:8).
Not every woman is granted by God the ability to bear children. So many women carry the silent sorrow of infertility. And there those who, unlike me, did not have the gift of a good mom and for whom Mother’s Day, and this being my first in such a situation, is a painful reminder of abandonment and loss. I’m going to miss my mom, but days like yesterday make me cry out in gratitude for the common grace that God gives us in having parents who love us.
My own acquaintance with grief on yesterday’s holiday does not allow me to forget how our culture is waging a war of degradation on maternalism. From Dove Soap’s insistence that “there’s no one right way to be a mom,” (even men can be moms, apparently) to the unsung reality that stay-at-home moms are still viewed as “wasting their potential,” our culture must return to the ancient paths of honoring the maternal instinct.
At a time when family formation in America is increasingly weakened, when family bonds are frayed, when our major institutions are erasing the beautiful distinctions between men and women with ridiculous terms like “birthing persons,” Christians should not stop celebrating motherhood. We must double down on our insistence on the total irreplaceability of moms and motherhood.
Mother’s Day is more than a Hallmark holiday or a cultural marker, it is the opportunity to reflect on a creational ideal woven throughout the gospel narrative, from Isaac’s miraculous birth to the obedience of Mary in bearing the Messiah. Through a mother’s sin came death and through a mother’s obedience came salvation (1 Timothy 2:15).
Ultimately, it’s this gospel story where we find hope on Mother’s Day and all days as we listen to the words of Jesus who said to his grieving mother, “Behold your son” and to his disciple John, “Behold your mother.” Our earthly families point us toward our new family, the family of God, where we find new mothers and fathers, new brothers and sisters. It’s also where those of us who grieve the loss of a mom on Mother’s Day draw comfort. For because the Son of Mary rose again on the third day, believers too will rise again—and rise again to glory.
These daily articles have become part of my steady diet. —Barbara
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